"It's Not The End". Recovery after the Devastation of Stillbirth: KEJI MOSES of MAYAH'S LEGACY
Description
In a very moving yet inspirational episode, I speak to author, podcaster and professional grief counsellor Keji Moses. Keji talks about her early loss through miscarriage and the devastation of losing her baby girl Mayah, who was stillborn at 35 weeks. She has since made it her mission to shed light on the mental health impacts of pregnancy loss. Through her charity Mayah's Legacy, Keji supports families affected by this very personal tragedy and helps them to advocate for the care they need.
*TRIGGER WARNING: *Miscarriage and Baby Loss*
IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:
[00:00 ] Teaser quote.
[02:16 ] Introduction to Keji Moses.
[04:35 ] Having her son, following an earlier miscarriage.
[09:12 ] The impact and loss of her first miscarriage. Lack of support.
[14:25 ] Keji's husband's reaction to the loss.
[16:52 ] Her pregnancy with Mayah - a diagnosis of Edwards' Syndrome.
[22:07 ] Knowing something was wrong. Being told there was no heartbeat.
[25:11 ] Saying goodbye.
[29:03 ] Starting her charity, 'Mayah's Legacy'.
[30:25 ] Equipping families for self advocacy.
[32:11 ] Channelling her pain into her creative offering.
[32:58 ] "It's not the end."
[34:13 ] A lack of support after Mayah's stillbirth.
[36:53 ] The need to put mothers experiencing baby loss on a different ward.
[39:20 ] Cultural attitudes to baby loss and mental health.
[42:30 ] How Keji's children dealt with the loss of Mayah.
[44:56 ] Advice for those who want to help a loved one affected by baby loss.
[49:13 ] The need for advocacy.
[54:06 ] Negative racial stereotyping within the maternal health system.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- Click this link to find out more about Keji's charity, Mayah's Legacy
- For Keji's empowerment tools for women on their healing journey, click this link to go to the Goddess Hub website.
- Follow this link for NHS on Miscarriage information.
- N.C.T. '8 Things That Can Help After Miscarriage'
- This link takes you to the Blue MumDays episode with my lovely mum, Nina Spilsted - PND in the '70s: My Mum's Story
- Tommys is the largest charity in the UK carrying out research into the causes of miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth.
- Sands Baby Loss Charity is a UK charity providing information and support for those who've experienced pregnancy loss.
- The Miscarriage Association is a UK charity providing further support for those experiencing baby loss.
- Child Bereavement UK supports families and educates professionals when a child dies or when a child is bereaved.
- This link will take you to information on Mayah's condition, Edwards' Syndrome (Trisomy 18)
- The Ockenden Report in 2022 found "repeated errors in care" which led to injury to either mothers or their babies at Shrewsbury and Telford Hospital NHS Trust.
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SUPPORT:
If you are struggling right now, please know that it’s okay to talk and reach out for help.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND WILL NOT FEEL THIS WAY FOR EVER.
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Action on Postpartum Psychosis (APP)
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Association of Postnatal Illness
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